Slut trust from wrong boss
To start with the slip philosophy, nothing like an example. Here is one that happened to me recently. I was invited to an event, I’m about to greet a lady I don’t know. Problem: It holds two large plates of french fries. So I can’t shake hands with him. Then I understand that she gave me her little finger while carrying the dishes. Neither one nor two, I press the last (with my little finger, of course).
A strange greeting, I said to myself. I understood his bewildered look. She wasn’t expecting this conflicting gesture at all, and it might have been a coincidence or an effect of style if her little finger was that prominent from the others. Crimson and stuttering, I deeply apologize. All evening, I dwelt in this little folly. I, who was used to this kind of disappointment, thought back to the words Vladimir Yankelevich: » The violator says what should not be said, and should not be said, and where it should not be said; […] He chooses the most convenient place and moment. He’s a genius of fools! » I don’t know if I’m a bit of a genius genius, but I often say or do the exact wrong thing, at least at the right moment. In this case, he rocked the little finger of an elegant woman during a rather elegant evening.
However, I immediately wanted to tell the story around me. Because in situations like this, the story reassures me. By provoking the laughter of my friends, and gently basking in my follies, I regain my strength over the embarrassment that this event might have caused me. I say and endlessly retold the episode, as if I were separating it from myself. Gradually it becomes a kind of fee Unbelievable, which I would have attended, but because of its repetition and organization, it doesn’t really matter to me anymore. If I talk a lot about these little moments of embarrassment in society, it’s also because deep down I find them fascinating. Perhaps it is this strange interest that keeps me awkward. The offender, according to Yankelevich, » So fascinated by the prospect of slipping, or the clumsy gesture, that he commits it”.
Fatal mistake, enemy of hypocrisy
If the fatal bug fascinates me, it’s because it has a certain sabotage power. Unfortunate misunderstandings, extremely long silences, and little missed jokes force us to lower our masks, and step out of our well-enhanced social roles. They open a small gap, a rupture in the narrow fabric of our social relations. They’re embarrassing, but they’re real. Through the slip, the conversation is humanized. What you lose in credibility you gain in sincerity. » slip, somehow, Spontaneous protest against the truth »And explain Yankelevich.
because pBy definition, the offender does not make mistakes. Before he realizes he’s made a mistake, he’s tipped to the trumpet. Not just clumsy Put your feet on the platebut she does it » Aloud « And Says philosopher and musicologist. It is this subconscious, even this innocence, that makes him truly wrong, a « Unintentional Detective ». Folly never takes tweezers. The error is a reckless Literally. He doesn’t hold back from what he says for the time being: he lets himself go and spread around without warning the angry truth.
DrIn everyday life, this fact is usually « accurate doses ». It is not beaten brutally, but is distilled here and there, by discreet hints. However, the fatal error fully reflects this cautious relationship with truth. Still, according to Jankélévitch, ‘Huge management […] Among those facts that civilized doses in general convey. » It upsets a smooth world of convention, hypocrisy, and good morals.
Along the same lines, the file Slip sprays everything in its path. The embarrassment it causes affects not only the person who is aware of his antics, but everyone around him. A slip is contagious because it reveals the absurdity, apathy, and even the scandal of the situation. “The blunder, in a word spoken, disturbs the devout lies who have escaped a delicate or horrifying situation, and rounded corners, but created, whatever happens, temporary settlement »Jankélévitch continues. The clumsy man around him creates a moral panic that generally manifests in awkward silences and throat clearing.
Death, a fatal mistake in existence
Imagine life as a great social comedy, and see the slip as a fatal mistake. This is the extreme hypothesis proposed by Yankelevich, considering » [qu’] Among all forms of « fatal error » or lack of tact is death […] It is the most lewd. » According to him, death far exceeds all possible and imaginable fatal errors. “It is inappropriate to die of stroke in the middle of the drawing-room than to speak there at the top of the voice, or in a very penetrating tone, than to yawn loudly at the concert, or to laugh out loud during the sermon or to smell a foul”And He explains, not without a touch of sarcastic irony.
The end of life indicates the end of all manifestations of existence. If death constitutes some kind of fatal error, it is also because of it « Tear all pacts, empty all abscesses, get rid of all misunderstandings. » It is impossible to hold the guilty accountable. In the face of death, we are no longer able to pretend something: no more good manners and an angry atmosphere … Death appears in this respect as “The only completely honest and authentic attitude to our destiny.”
Slip is a great rebel, semi-metaphysical in appearance. It upsets hypocritical arrangements and freaks out lovers of small, well-kept secrets. Not only does he break the silence, he offers moments of absolute truth. Sadly, the deceased, offender par excellence, is no longer there to reach this moment of authenticity. « Why should this ‘real situation’ also be the last? Why does the misunderstanding not clear until it is too late? »And Jankélévitch asks again. Therefore, it is up to everyone to enjoy the power of sabotage and demystify embarrassment, before the absolute gaffe.